The only thing constant in life is change. And change is often coupled with stress. Stress occurs as we try to adjust and cope with the constant changes in our lives. It affects us physically and emotionally, positively and negatively. It can trigger feelings of depression, anger and fury. But it can also give us a sense of excitement and accomplishment as we try to cope with everyday challenges and pressures. When stress takes over our lives we often find ourselves victims of health issues like ulcers, high blood pressure and strokes. 


A certain amount of stress is both welcome and necessary to curb our feelings of boredom and to add meaning to our lives. However, we have to check ourselves from going over-the-top and distressing about things that we have no control over. Stress can distract us from our goals since our vision often gets hazy and we fail to look at the bigger picture. If this happens you have to try to minimize stress in your life or at least attempt to take it in your stride.


Stress is experienced across all walks of life no matter how old you are. A student stresses about examinations and education, a teenager stresses about superficial things like clothes, cars and cell-phones, a field employee worries about incurring the wrath of his supervisor, a supervisor is anxious about reporting to the management. The management on the other hand stresses about responsibility towards the clients. Married couples have financial and child-related anxieties. So, no matter who we are, how old we are and how rich we are, there is no escaping this thing called stress. We have to learn to live with it just like we live with an annoying neighbor or a physical imperfection we’re not too happy about.


Stress management is of supreme importance if we don’t want stress to sneak in and take hold of our lives. There are some techniques we can use to control stress. Exercise is an    ideal stress-buster. It helps you shape-up and prevents you from dwelling on disturbing thoughts. Yoga and meditation also relieve stress to an extent. Laughter is the best medicine. When we laugh we feel wonderful and momentarily forget our worries. Laughter therapy is used to reduce tension and anxiety attacks. Watching television and comedy shows provides a temporary escape. If you’re pious, you can also try praying or visiting your place of worship. It can help you experience a sensation of peace and harmony. Listening to soothing music and having a relaxing massage also alleviates stress. If stress is managed properly it can stimulate us to reach heights of success we wouldn’t normally have reached if those stressful situations weren’t around to fling us into action.


Stress and Anger Management: Stress and anger are closely related emotions. Stress that cannot be handled constructively spills into bouts of rage and fury. While stress is something that’s always within us, anger is a fleeting emotion that comes in moments of great stress and vanishes thereafter. Anger is much more destructive than stress. Therefore controlling and managing it is the need of the hour. Anger management techniques are similar to those of stress management. Counting to ten or even twenty can help when you feel like you’re bursting out of control. Avoid discussing sensitive and provocative issues when you’re experiencing a fit of temper. Expressing feelings and focusing on getting a positive attitude goes a long way in keeping stress and anger at bay.


The most important thing is to recognize and accept is that stress exists and if kept in check can actually become a good friend to have.  


 Anger Management Institute of Texas is a certified Anderson & Anderson ® provider.


Anger Management Classes and Anger Management – Executive Coaching available in Houston, Texas.


Gregory A. Kyles, M.A., LPC, CEAP, CAMF
Director, Anger Management Institute of Texas
Diplomate, President of Texas Chapter
American Association of Anger Management Providers


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