When was the last time you felt really angry? Has it been a month, week, a day, yesterday, an hour ago or do you just feel angry all the time?


Anger is not tangible. It’s not something you can get hold of with your bare hands and toss away. Anger may be a symptom of stress, depression, childhood memories or feelings of low self-esteem. Some people actually take a perverse pleasure in anger because possibly it’s the only time they feel in control of the situation. Anger gives them a high and a sensation of power especially when people are terrified of their tempers.


Anger is not confined to a particular type of person. Everybody gets angry at sometime or the other. However, the responses and reactions to anger vary from person to person. Why is it that some people rave and rant when angry and others are able to maintain some semblance of composure even if boiling inside? Well, a lot of it depends on our family background, the company we keep and our ability to adjust to everyday stress and pressures. If we come from a household where people scream and yell to make a point, it’s quite possible we’ll end up doing the same if faced with a difficult situation. This is because we subconsciously pick up behavioral patterns and traits from our immediate surroundings. 


Impulsive people are more prone to expressing anger rather violently. They act before they think and repent in leisure. Have you ever had a boss who flings files when he’s angry? Perhaps, you’re one of those employees who everybody avoids because your temper scares the living daylights out of them. Does your partner leave town each time you show signs of throwing a fit? If you find yourself flying off the handle at the least sign of provocation, you might want to consider getting help with anger.


Help With Anger: If you want to quit interrupting your progress at work and at the domestic front because of bouts of rage, seek help with anger. Anger destroys and devastates. People have recognized the need to start anger management programs to deal with anger related issues. Numerous local social and volunteer groups have begun these programs. They are conducted in groups or on a one-to-one basis. Group therapy involves people facing similar issues expressing feelings, thoughts and experiences. Hypnosis is also advocated by many therapists as a means to control anger. If you don’t want to seek help with your local groups, going online is also a solution. Several online anger management courses are available if you’re not comfortable speaking to people about your issues. Yoga is also a great way to de-stress and unwind as it follows the principles of calm and composure in adverse circumstances. Reading self-help books covering anger related behavioral issues can help to an extent.


Help with Anger through Stress Management: There is no escape from stress. However, we can’t let stress build up to a point that anger or even rage takes over. Stress management is closely related to anger management. If you can learn to manage stress effectively, anger related issues get resolved automatically. Stress can be managed effectively through a combination of techniques like laughter therapy, meditation, listening to soothing music, watching television and going on a vacation with family and friends. We can certainly minimize what we can’t eliminate altogether. Minimizing stress through successful stress management techniques is a step towards managing and controlling anger.


 Effective stress management skills can be learned in an anger management program, for more information visit https://ami-tx.com.


Anger Management Institute of Texas is a certified Anderson & Anderson ® provider.


Anger Management Classes and Anger Management – Executive Coaching available in Houston, Texas.


Gregory A. Kyles, M.A., LPC, CEAP, CAMF
Director, Anger Management Institute of Texas
Diplomate, President of Texas Chapter
American Association of Anger Management Providers



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