There are a great many people who will tell you that the cause of spousal abuse is due to a substance problem that the battering partner suffers from. Many women who live with a wife beater will be quick to defend them saying that they are a completely different person when they are not drinking. This is not the case. Drinking and drugs does not cause spousal abuse. Abuse is all about control. The alcohol or drugs may aid in loosening the control that the batterers feel, but the underlying problem is not in the alcohol or drugs. If this were the case, no one sober would ever abuse their spouse and everyone who had a drink would become a wife beater.
The causes of spousal abuse are usually found in childhood. There are traumas, such as child abuse, that can cause someone to seek control over their environment that includes those who are in their environment as well. Most of the cases of spousal abuse are against women perpetrated by men. The cause usually lies within childhood and in the way that the man was raised. In most cases, this is a learned behavior that can be unlearned if the man enters into a battering intervention and prevention program that can help him control his own behavior.
Many women who are the victims of spousal abuse will blame themselves for the abuse that is inflicted upon them. They tell themselves that if they can only do better, their spouse will stop the abuse. The wife beater will typically blame the spouse for the abuse and tell her that it is her fault that he is behaving this way.
Unfortunately, in too many cases, domestic violence escalates into severe beatings and even murder. When a woman finally has enough of the abuse, she often leaves the wife beater who might try to track her down. Many of these cases end with the abuser not only killing his wife, but also himself. In some cases, an abuser will also kill the children in the family as well. Needless to say, domestic abuse is the fault of the perpetrator of the act, not anyone else in the family nor any drug or alcohol problem. It is a myth that drugs or alcohol are the cause of domestic violence.
Those who are perpetrators of spousal abuse need to recognize it as a crime as well as a choice in their own behavior and not blame anyone else or any substance for their actions. Controlling this behavior and un-learning behavior that is often learned in childhood is the key to helping those who are batterers in a battering intervention and prevention program. These programs work to address the issue itself rather than try to lay blame on substance abuse.
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